Today I had a discussion with one of my friends about love.
He is in my year at university doing the same course as me. He told me that I
was stupid and naive to believe in real love and that he thought it didn’t
exist. Maybe he was trying to be a ‘lad’ and appear macho but he told me that I
was deluded and that real life isn’t like Twilight
or the Notebook or P.S. I Love You. I told him one day he’d
fall in love and that if I knew him when that happened I’d say I told you so.
He laughed. Although I’ve had two failed relationships and have been hurt very
badly, I haven’t given up on love. I am still young and I hope to meet someone
new and have that feeling again.
We were both waiting to go into clinic together at hospital and
if I had two hours I could’ve easily persuaded him that love existed and that
one day when the right person walked into his life, he would feel it and he’d know
it. He laughed again. I told him one day he’d find a woman that he will see as
more than just a sexual object and that he will genuinely care for her and want
to be with her. He said he gets bored really easily and that that was unlikely.
He told me he couldn’t be bothered with relationships.
But it got me thinking about how different people can have
such different views on the topic of love. I got thinking about what love is
and what it means to me. I think the different views on love depend strongly on
age and personal experiences of it as well as your individual needs as a human
being. With changing hormones and needs, people’s views and feelings of love
adapt to meet the changes. I can’t quite define it but I have lots of quotes
which seem to reflect in words exactly what I am feeling and what it means to
me.
I watched The Lucky One
last week, a romantic film about an ex-marine who finds love after finding a
photo that proves a lucky charm and inadvertently saves his life. This quote from
the film particularly stood out to me.
“She was struck by the simple
truth that sometimes the most ordinary things could be made extraordinary,
simply by doing them with the right people...”
― Nicholas Sparks ―
I like this quote and I realised that it made perfect sense
to me. I remember in my last
relationship of which unfortunately most of it was long distance, my ex asked
me while we were apart, what I look forward to doing most when we see each other
again. I remember saying that I really
wanted to walk down the street with him and also just do simple things like
going to Tesco with him. Even though both of these seem like completely normal everyday
things and can often be taken for granted by couples, it was something I looked
forward to doing with him because I just wanted to be with him. It didn’t
matter what we did, as long as I was with him, it’d be special.
I am currently reading Bared to you, an erotic novel by
Sylvia Day. A particular line in the novel stood out to me. I remember reading
it and the words stayed with me.
“I’ve always seen you, angel.
From the moment you found me, I’ve seen nothing but you.”
― Sylvia Day ―
I found this quote simply heart-warming. That when you find
someone that you love, everything that you previously may have thought of or
wanted goes out of the window and the love that you feel for that person overwhelms
you. It takes over your senses until it consumes you. Also I like the idea that
someone can rescue you, not in a needy or dependent kind of way. I like the
idea that it’s as if you can be wondering along – lost and alone and someone
comes along and notices you and sees you for the first time. They ‘find’ you. You are no longer just you but you have been
noticed by someone.
Another quote which I really like is from the film Like Crazy which I mentioned in my previous
post.
“To you who made me see things I
could never see alone”
― Drake Doremus, Ben York Jones ―
In the film, the main female character is a keen writer and keeps
a journal of her romance and dedicates it to her love in the inscription. I
thought this quote was so beautiful in its meaning and simplicity. This is
something I strongly believe in. I believe that a good love is one where you appreciate
and learn things that couldn’t see on your own. In a way the person you are
with opens your eyes and you see things with a new perspective. Whether it’s a
different outlook or mind set, they can bring out positive things in you that
the world may not fully get to appreciate when you’re single.
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